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Paula Abdul gets a dose of reality

The reality being, that she's an old bitch past her prime who doesn't know her worth. God, I love a free market society.

Hilarious!!

Is it all worth it?

All my life, growing up, it was hammered into me that to be a success you need to go to school. My Dad is a Professor, so essentially, he never left academia. Everything revolves around books. There is nothing wrong with that in of itself, in fact it's a great thing, but school isn't about knowledge per se. It's not about expanding your mind, broadening your horizons, reading books or deep philosophical and spiritual thought. It's basically a cookie cutter diploma factory that stamps out degrees for people every 4 years. There is alot of pressure on kids to go to college, and when you tell them that they will be losers if they don't attend, then it's understandable why they feel obligated to go. The very fact that the student body is of the female majority is testament that a college degree has very little to do with expanding your mind, or growing as an individual. It is simply part of the "career grrl" process.

I did all the things that I was supposed to do to be a success. I went to a good school, graduated magna cum laude, got a great paying job at a well respected firm, and I am liked by my peers and coworkers (well the male ones at least) But, the last 6 weeks have left a damn sour taste in my mouth. Up until this week, I have worked no less than 60 hrs a week, sometimes 70. Evening coming into the office on Saturdays. I understand that long hours are part of the territory in the field that i'm in, but it's almost like I was being punished for working efficiently. Working harder didn't get me accolades, it just got me more work stacked on my desk. Sometimes I got to do the work of others because I did it faster. Those incapable of doing it well left at 5pm, I was there until 11 pm. Somehow, I don't consider that a victory on my part. People who don't bust their ass (vast majority female) seem to just skate by, while i'm there with the other twenty somethings doing research on deals on Friday night. I'm just a junior analyst, so I know I have to pay dues, but when women take maternity leave left and right and i'm stuck with their work as well as mine, it really grates on me. They're getting paid to have me and other grunts do their work. Where's the equity in that? There is none for single guys.

We had a business trip to the Chicago office 2 weeks ago, and after what seemed like an eternity of pointless powerpoint slides, we head out to brunch. The managing director turns to me and tells me, "In another 10 years, with enough hard work you can be an Associate Director, I think you got what it takes." I'm looking at the room at all the Directors there and what a sad site it was. Every last one of them was either horribly fat, balding and overworked. This is what I have to look forward to? This is success? Working 70 - 80 hours a week? Dealing with power hungry, lurching vipers that call themselves career women on a daily basis? It's terrible. Most of these guys have been divorced, some several times. The managing director in my department is on his 3rd marriage. Sometimes I want to ask him why he keeps making the same mistake over and over again, but I don't have that kind of rapport with him.

Sometimes I wish I went to trade school to be a plumber or electrician so I don't have to deal with these pretentious people in corporate America. Some of them (again mostly women) seriously think that they are better than others simply because they have a college degree from "My Daddy overpayed for this" University. I don't even know if this shit is worth it anymore.

Been extremely busy

It's been one hell of a rough month. Due to me working 60 - 70 hrs a week, I simply have not have the time to update on a regular basis. So, i'm still around and I will update when I can.